Why I am...

Dave Matthews has a song called “why I am." If you have never heard it, it is a great song and he has some very insightful lyrics. He doesn’t seem to be questioning why he is; however, “why I am” is a daring question. I set out in January with the intention of investigating “why I am.” Why I am afraid of what scares me, why I am annoyed by certain people, why I find forgiving people hard, why I love to have things my way… It sounded like a simple enough endeavor, but it has turned out to be a much more epic journey then I ever imagined. In fact, it has turned into a journey of soul discovery and the pursuit of a bigger question then just why I am the way I am. It has blossomed into the desire to find out why I am here. You know, here? Here on earth, here with the people who are in my life, here having a great time and here enduring the pain of being human just like everyone else? Ultimately I have embarked on a journey to fulfill my calling.

One thing that has been revealed to me thus far on my quest for “why I am,” is that the road to this discovery is long, steep and can be overgrown with brush. One of my first lessons is also reflected in another line from Dave’s song (I hope he doesn’t mind if we are on a first name basis). He seems to be alerting us to the Truth that we are all our own “slave and master at the same damn time.” To quote a teacher I have had “we are all head cases”. We are so locked up in our heads and the stories we tell ourselves, that we quite literally become enslaved to our thoughts. The incessant fear, chatter and fictions our minds control us with make us forget that we are the master not the slave. We become a slave to the masterful bully of our head. Intuition, gut feelings and dreams are lost to the master with the bullhorn blasting in between our ears. “Yes master” becomes the answer even when we know otherwise. I have come to understand that in order to get out of my own way, I need to fire the master and set free the slave.

I have discovered that there are ways to take the bullhorn away from this master. However, the master in charge knows that if you figure this out, s/he looses her/his power (and the prized megaphone, because face it, who doesn’t want a megaphone and a captive audience?). The way to freedom is to enter what Jung called the Shadow. Quite simply, your shadow is made up of the parts of you that you don’t yet know. It is these parts that hold the megaphone and keep you from the daring question of “why I am.”

So, I have been searching the shadows, an interesting place to visit. Jung said “anyone who perceives his (or her) Shadow and his (or her) light simultaneously sees himself from two sides and thus gets in the middle.” Like I said, an interesting place to sit for a bit- between the shadow and the light of you. This space gives you great insight into what has been your motivation up until that point. Like my friend Mr. Matthews says (last quote I promise), “out of my head and into the room, hello.” Hello indeed. If you so desire to sojourn out of your head and into the room your shadow will need to be addressed. You will need to introduce yourself to your fear, your powerful clinging to your habits and sit between your shadow and your light; only then can you emancipate the understanding of “why I am.”

Video from Youtube of "Why I am"
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